It’s Complicated… Or is It?


How Life Seems More Complicated Than It Is

Written by Michael Richardson 

A hilarious book called Reasons My Kid Is Crying compiles a list of ridiculous reasons why kids cry, submitted by parents along with pictures of the sobbing children. Here are some of the funniest reasons:

  • “He thought the microwave ate his lunch.”
  • “Someone ate all the muffins (it was him).”
  • “There was a hot dog hidden in his cornbread (it was a corn dog).”
  • “I told him we couldn’t keep a lobster as a pet.”
  • “She keeps dropping her fork (she’s wearing oven mitts).”
  • “He thinks the letters on his shirt are upside down (because he doesn’t understand that’s only his point of view).”
  • “He couldn’t get the last Cheerio on the spoon.”
  • “He thought if he colored himself green we would grow into the Incredible Hulk (he did color himself green).”
  • “I wouldn’t let him get a tattoo (he’s two).”
  • “There was no more cake, because he’d eaten it all.”
  • “T-rex’s jaw is not big enough to bite this Lego-man’s head.”
  • “My son put himself in time out.”

Parents reading this probably have their own slew of similar stories. We know children can be illogical, absurd and funny this way, but adults often miss their own irrationalities. As grownups, we can paint an unrealistically dramatic portrait of our situation, failing to see things from a true perspective, just like a child.

“Being overwhelmed comes from a breakdown of your thoughts about life, not a breakdown of your life,” lifehack.org writer Siobhan Harmer wisely observed.

The children mentioned above can teach us about this concept. Take the child who was crying because there was no more cake, because he had eaten it all. In his eyes, life became distressingly complicated when the cake ran out. An adult will quickly observe that the child has made himself sad. There was a terrible lack of foresight on the child’s part and no accountability. Furthermore, the child fails to see that cake really doesn’t matter that much and that it’s not good for him anyway.

Just a silly child, right? Well here’s the truth: someone has made the same observation about adult you. We’ve all cried over a metaphorical missing cake, and a lot of times, we were the ones who ate it.

Loose Ends

In the words of Confucius, “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.” When things seem to be getting complicated, we tend to lose control of our thoughts and priorities, and we get riled up to feeling overwhelmed. Part of the problem is that the world is much more cerebral than ever. Technology today allows us to simultaneously juggle many different commitments, relationships and forms of entertainment. At any moment, we could be fulfilling one of a dozen tasks, and that thought is a heavy one to carry around.

Inevitably, all of the tasks, duties and to-dos that come from different segments of our lives will get jumbled. Every day, there is probably something each of us wanted to do that didn’t get done. Over the course of weeks, those little things that are left undone start to weigh on our minds, even though we probably can’t name specifics. It’s just a complicated clutter.

When things get messy in the mind, it’s easy to lose track of what we do and don’t need to worry about, so we worry about everything. Essentially, our grip on reality slips. We experience mental strain on a mirage of duties, and when commitments are all knotted up in our minds, they are heavier than what they would be when separated.

Reasons Why Your Life Seems Complicated

  • You’re thinking of all your commitments at the same time.
  • You assume the worst about future situations.
  • You overestimate how much other people care about things.
  • You’re trying to control the uncontrollable.
  • You aren’t able to say something is good enough and leave it alone.
  • You’re caught up in the moment.
  • You respond negatively to new things that pop up in your life.

How and Why to Do a Mind Dump

Think of apps running in the background on your phone that drain battery and use data without you knowing. The purpose of a mind dump is to gather all of your tasks, chores, ambitions and to-dos and have them present in front of you.

Step 1: Get a pen and paper

Step 2: Record all tasks, duties, to-dos on the paper

Step 3: Re-write this list in order of things that matter the most.

As you do this, you’re essentially removing the weight of your to-do’s from your mind to the paper. You’re bringing reality into a firmer grasp, which is almost always relieving. Even if it’s a long list, there is something satisfying about knowing the quest ahead of you. There will always be things left undone, but you’ll feel more in control and more satisfied about life.

Responding to Unexpected Tasks

If we could only be left alone, we could complete the stuff we need to do, right? The problem is that each day springs new commitments upon us. The car breaks down, a child gets sick, or one of a million other things happen that we don’t expect.

When these surprises pop up, it can be difficult to integrate them into our days. The temptation is to be negative about it and to get overwhelmed, to see it as just another thing to do when you already have too much on your plate. Other responses to feeling overwhelmed include escaping and neglecting your duties, complaining and despair.

But the hardiest people in life are the ones who are most open to change. They realize that change is life, not an inconvenience.

Here are three things to do when a new to-do pops up:

  1. Stop saying, “I’m so busy.” You stress out yourself and those you interact with. These vocal complaints accomplish nothing.
  2. Identify the most pressing thing that needs to be done, and do it! Action is a great way to relieve stress.
  3. Think of your day in context of a year. Stepping back will help you overcome the blip that is today.

“It’s possible for a person to have an overwhelming number of things to do and still function productively with a clear head and a positive sense of relaxed control,” writes David Allen in Getting Things Done. “That’s a great way to live and work, at elevated levels of effectiveness and efficiency.”

Sources: lifehack.org, imgur.com

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Michael Richardson

Michael Richardson

Managing Editor at Healthy Magazine
Michael is the managing editor of Healthy Magazine, with years of experience writing about many aspects of health. He can't imagine a field more relevant to every living person.
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